Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Break Homework ..

I found that my list of people who I would invite to my living funeral was a lot easier to make and surprisingly small. I thought about people who I loved, and people who have made a change in my life. I also thought about people who I might've touched or made a difference in their lives. I started off with a big list at first but then I cut a lot of people out. I realized that there are a lot of people who I used to be close to but are no longer of that much importance to me or my life in general. In making a list of people who might invite me to their living funeral, I found that it was much harder then I originally thought it would be. I listed my close family without a doubt but when it came to friends and other people I thought twice about it. I saw how easy it was for me to cross off people on my list who I'm pretty sure would think I would definitely invite them so I didn't want to make the same mistake with them. I found that the list of people who would invite me was overall about the same as the list of people I would invite (the people). I noticed that you can't be too sure about who really likes you and who doesn't. Now a days most people aren't honest about these things so its pretty hard to tell. While making the list I felt really empty in a way. I saw how many close people I've lost (grown distant from) and it kind of makes me sad. Not that I need people surrounding me with love to make me feel secure but idk, I guess it would be nice to have people who mattered to me still close to me.

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

10-15 questions & answers...

1) How active are you in your community?

Mary is a senior who lives in a Nursing home who took part in an interview regarding the lifestles of nursing homes. When asked if she felt a sense of community in the nursing home she replied, "In the nursing home, we take part in everything. And one day a week we have one of the people here they read the newspaper ..." After reading on about Mary's past life, I realized that everyone doesnt take part in everything. Just those who are interested. Mary was a house wife and took on a lot of responsibilities including taking care of her children while her husband was at work. She still enjoys interactions with people and agrees while being in a nursing home, her feelings of loneliness have reduced. (Source)

2) How do you feel internally on a daily basis?

Studies show that nursing homes are the last place that elderly want to live. When asked why, seniors replied "Although nursing homes can provide comfort, physical care, and reduce loneliness, they feel these homes are also a place of loss, both of privacy and independance. (Source)

3) How many old people live in poverty?

"Currently, 3.4 million seniors age 65 and older live below the poverty line. Millions more are barely making ends meet just above the poverty line." (2006): (Source)

4) How do old people view nursing homes?

Most old people don't choose to go to a nursing home. In fact, most old people believe they won't end up in a nursing home. They view nursing homes as "places to help people who are unable to care for themseleves". Ofcourse they don't like to be told they can't take care of themselves. (Source)

5) What are your responsibilities?

Studies have shown that the older you get, the less responsibilites you have. For those who live in a nursing home; they have almost none. But if it bothers them and they feel the need to get up and do things everyday, they can always help out with chores or volunteer to help set up games, organize activities, or even help clean up in the nursing home.(Source)

6) What are the leading causes of death for old people?

1. Heart disease is the number one cause of death among adults over the age of 60. Heart disease includes conditions such as heart failure, heart attack and heart arrhythmia that can cause the heart to beat ineffectively and impair circulation.
2. Cancer is the second leading cause of death among seniors. It includes all cancers including, breast cancer, colon cancer, and skin cancer. Also included are the malignant blood and bone marrow diseases that cause leukemia.
3. Cerebrovascular Disease. (More commonly know as stroke)
4. COPD also known as chronic obstructive lung disease
5. Pneumonia
6. Diabetes
7. Accidents
8. Septicemia refers to the presence of pathogenic bacteria in the blood.
9. Nephritis (an inflammation of the kidney)
10. Alzheimers

(Source)

7. Are old people sexually active?

After an interview that examined more than 3,000 older men and women (the youngest in their late 50s; the oldest was 85), what they found is that most people — at least into their early 70s — are sexually active. Seventy-seven percent of older men said sex was important; 65 percent of women agreed. Most of those who reported being sexually active said they were having sex at least two or three times a month. That's about the same as what national surveys have found for younger people, ages 18 to 59. How often older people have sex doesn't change much from their 50s to their mid-70s. It also found that for varied reasons, women were significantly less likely than men to report being sexually active from age 57 on. Women were more often without a partner, for example, and were more likely to say they no longer derived much pleasure from sex. (Source 1) (Source 2)

8. How many older people live in nursing homes in the United States?

According to the U.S. Bureau of the Census, slightly over 5 percent of the 65+ population occupy nursing homes, congregate care, assisted living, and board-and-care homes, and about 4.2 percent are in nursing homes at any given time. (Source)

9. What percent of old people are widows?

New study estimated that 80 percent of the elderly now living alone are women, and two-thirds of all elderly people living alone are widows. Among poor elderly people, 67 percent are widows. (Source)

10. What are the main causes of suicides for old people?

1. Presence of some mental illness like depression
2. Alcohol abuse
3. Presence of any long standing physical illnesses
4. Sudden loss of wealth or social standing
5. Feelings of social isolation from the death of a spouse
6. Availability of firearms in the house

(Source)

11. What percent of the population is 65 and older?

As of 2008 a little over 12 percent of the population in the United States is 65 or older. (Source)

12. How expensive are nursing homes?

In NYC, it costs about 340$ a day (that's if you're sharing a room with someone else) That's about 124,100$ a year. (Source)

13. How long does the average person live?

It greatly varies depending on country, sex, and life decisions (ovbviously those who drink, smoke, and/or work in hazardous places tend to live shorter than those who don't). In the U.S, woman usually live to about 77 and men about 76 (that's if they were healthy ..etc) (Source)

After doing all this research I must say it really did open my eyes up a bit more about how old people live and affect our community. I also found out how the elderly people feel in their community whether it be at home, nursing home, jail, etc. The older people grow, the more 'unhappy' they get because they are no longer able to do the same things they used to do. Death is pretty much a closer welcoming and all in all the idea of growing older and becoming less 'able' is scary to them. You don't look the same nor do you have the same comfortablility in your own body. Everything's coming as a surprise. Some are in denial, some feel more depressed and some just can't wait for life to end because of all the depression. They are discriminated against and put in unfair stereotypes that aren't always true. In some cases they arn't the ones who make decisions for themselves (like when their own children decide whether or not to put them in a nursing home). They are most likely more prone to getting hurt and not being able to defend themselves (unless they're in good shape). They no longer have lots of choices therefore unable to make as much money and provide for themselves and possibly someone else. Their body is weaker and unable to fight off diseases or sicknesses that could possibly take their life. And last but not least, they feel 'out of touch' with the younger generation therefore a lot of them try to stay in touch by keeping up with technology, music, & their children/grandchildren. I think overall majority of them are unhappy with their lives but if given the choice or oppertunity would have it much different. I wouldn't say I sympathize with old people nor do I pity them but if in any way I can help them, I definately will. It sucks that people grow old without choice. To be honest if I had the choice I wouldn't want to grow old, especially not without a partner. I'd hate to feel internally lonely and be in denial.

Monday, February 9, 2009

Class group questions on how old people live ...

1) What’s it like to live in a nursing home?
2) What do you do for fun?
3) What are your responsibilities?
4) Is your life well organized or spontaneous?
5) What do you do with your time?
6) Do you often have company over?
7) If you have kids, how often do they visit/check up on you?
8) If you have a health condition how do you cope? Do you bother going to the hospital?
9) How active are you in your community?
10) How do you feel internally on a daily basis?
11) What do you find comforting?
12) Would you be happy if you could live with your friends as your roommate?
13) What makes you happy now-a-days?
14) How many old people are abusing substances to make them feel better?
15) How many old people live in poverty?
16) How do you spend your money?
17) How often do old people get beat up (nursing homes and streets)
18) What do they do for protection?
19) What’s your preferred environment?
20) Are old people with grandchildren happier?
21) How often do old people go to therapists?
22) What’s the suicide rate for old people?
23) What’s the anti-depressants rate?
24) What’s it like to experience dependency?
25) How many old people are all about travel? Romance? …etc
26) What are your values?
27) What do you still find fun under any circumstance?
28) Which old people are happier; rich or loved?

Sunday, February 8, 2009

4th Interview (Alfred)

Interview with my neighbor Alfred

-Are you satisfied with your life? Do you have any regrets? If you could take back or redo some things in your life, what would they be and why?

I’m satisfied with my life. It’s too late to take anything back, and I’m content with the decisions I’ve made.


-What is your motivation for getting up every day and living your life?

I like to see my grand children and visit them. I like waking up to my wife’s company and cooking.


-What does it mean to live a meaningful life and why do you think so?

When you’re just happy with all the choices you’ve made throughout the day and to have something to live for.


-In your perspective was your life meaningful? Why or why not?

I think my life was meaningful. I’ve worked very hard. Ever since I was a little boy I was working trying to support my family. I still walk around the house and try to keep myself busy.


-What have you learned from your life? What would be your most important life lesson that if you could, you would 'warn' or pass on to others?

To floss.


-Can you think back to when you were younger? Was your life everything you expected it to be?

I think the times were so different back then so we didn’t have many expectations so I just basically lived my life trying to get ahead by taking steps.


-What is your perspective about death? Are you afraid to die? Do you believe in an eternal after life? Do you believe you’re after life is a happy place?

I’m not afraid to die. I approach death with open arms because I feel fulfilled with the way I lived my life. I view death as an eternal resting place with a smile on my face.


-Would you trade your life at this moment in time with a younger person? Why or why not?

If the person was a young adult with a lot of money, than I think I would. If it was any other situation, I wouldn’t take it. With education comes money. With money comes opportunities. With opportunities comes happiness.

3rd Interview (Great Aunt)

Interview with my Great Aunt

-Are you satisfied with your life? Do you have any regrets? If you could take back or redo some things in your life, what would they be and why?

I say that I’ve lived life and seen a lot in the world. I help raised a lot of kids; friends, family, and even neighbors.


-What is your motivation for getting up every day and living your life?

Life itself. Thanking god for allowing me to see another day. My children and my grand kids.


-What does it mean to live a meaningful life and why do you think so?

Meaningful life is basically achieving a lot of the things you accomplished. Seeing your goals produce.


-In your perspective was your life meaningful? Why or why not?

Yea.


-What have you learned from your life? What would be your most important life lesson that if you could, you would 'warn' or pass on to others?

You learn from your mistakes and pass it on to others so that they won’t make the same trials and tribulations.


-Can you think back to when you were younger? Was your life everything you expected it to be?

No because you always create a vision of what you want your life to be but most the time it doesn’t always plan out that way. You always view life through the eyes of your parents and what they teach you.


-What is your perspective about death? Are you afraid to die? Do you believe in an eternal after life? Do you believe you’re after life is a happy place?

Yep. When you die, you become a spirit but you still live in the afterlife. Your flesh is what stays behind, but your soul is what becomes a spirit. I believe in reincarnation. Things that other people say or do that might remind you of the other person that passed away. No, I’m not afraid to die. No one wants to die but you have to die somehow.


-If you could create a bucket list of absolutely anything you would want to do/experience before you die, what would go in your list and why? Do these things have any importance or meaning to your life?

Achieve all the things that I never got to do and try to see them. When I leave, I want to leave some type of mark that people will remember me by.


-Would you trade your life at this moment in time with a younger person? Why or why not?

No because I already experienced everything I needed to know and everything god wanted me to see.

2nd Interview (Sister's boyfriend's Grandmother)

Interview with my sister’s boyfriends Grandmother

-Are you satisfied with your life? Do you have any regrets? If you could take back or redo some things in your life, what would they be and why?

I am pleased with where I’m at right now. I feel like I’ve accomplished enough and if I could I probably would have bought more ageless creams.


-What is your motivation for getting up every day and living your life?

I wake up every day looking forward to my channel 1 news and my café bustello (coffee).


-What does it mean to live a meaningful life and why do you think so?

It means to go through the pain, the struggle, love, the emotions and to experience and I think this matters because without any of these, I wouldn’t be where I am now.


-In your perspective was your life meaningful? Why or why not?

My life was meaningful because I’ve experienced so much, loved so hard and had very beautiful kids and the world to me.


-What have you learned from your life? What would be your most important life lesson that if you could, you would 'warn' or pass on to others?

Don’t have kids at a young age. Strive for all your goals and never back down.


-Can you think back to when you were younger? Was your life everything you expected it to be?

Yes, it was way more than I expected. I was very spoiled and I got to do whatever I want.


-What is your perspective about death? Are you afraid to die? Do you believe in an eternal after life? Do you believe you’re after life is a happy place?

I’m not afraid to die because everyone dies. When it’s my time to go I will come back as a famous singer. These things you just know. I was always meant to sing. I know songs from before my time and I’m still able to sing them.


-If you could create a bucket list of absolutely anything you would want to do/experience before you die, what would go in your list and why? Do these things have any importance or meaning to your life?

I would travel the world. See things I never saw before.


-Would you trade your life at this moment in time with a younger person? Why or why not?

No, cause I really want to be the famous singer I always knew I was supposed to be.

How I feel about old people..

It’s not that I don’t like old people, I actually adore them. I think they look really cute and when they smile, they look like they’ve lived this whole life of happiness. They look so peaceful and calm and just overall really content on a daily basis. I just don’t like certain qualities about them. Because of the fact that they’re really slow, they tend to be really messy. And, whenever you go to kiss them they tend to give sloppy wet kisses (that's disgusting). But other than that, they’re pretty cool. One thing I really like about them is that if you ever try to talk to them or ask them to go for a walk they get really excited. Well at least my grandparents do. And if you make them feel needed by trying to be more dependent of them, you can tell they feel appreciated and worthy. Every time I ask my grandmother for anything, she smiles really big. I really do enjoy happy old people. It’s the grumpy ones I dislike. I used to have a grumpy neighbor. I always tried to smile at her and she’d just stare. After a while I gave up on trying to smile, I just sort of stared back until she looked away. Then we just stopped making eye contact and went on with our lives.

I also noticed that a lot of teens (including myself) seperate old people from our generation. We exclude old people as if they're a different type of species because we feel like we can't relate to them. They grew up in a different time period with different values and social standards. Our generation (teens and young adults) has modernized technology and really changed our values and social standards since then. The crazy thing is, as we get older and time progresses and more new things come out, we're going to be looking at the younger generation the same way we look at old people. I guess to the old people now its kind of depressing to see time change. They used to cook, clean, help raise brothers/sisters.. etc, and earn most their money. We might do some of these things but we tend to blow them off more to go hang out with our friends, text, go online, watch t.v, etc. We have so many distractions from our lives that we miss out on the important stuff. I feel like at this point in time, trying to connect with old people is useless. We've already given up and we both make incorrect assumptions about the other and put them into false sterotypes that arnt true for all old people.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

1st Interview (Father)

I interviewed my dad who is currently 51. It kind of doesnt count cause his life really isnt "over" yet. He's a Carpenter who is still working.

-Do you enjoy being old? What are the downfalls or ups to being your age?

Yeah I guess I could say I enjoy being old, cause it beats being dead.
Downfalls - I cant do the things I used to do. As in having the strength to work as fast as I used to.
Ups - It is what it is. There are no major 'ups' about it. It's not like I have grandchildren. You guys are still young and I havn't seen you all experience your life yet, or get on your own two feet.

-Are you satisfied with your life? Do you have any regrets? If you could take back or redo some thing(s) in your life, What would they be and why?

Yeah I guess I could say I'm satisfied with my life cause I feel that I've done things in my life that a whole lot of people will never do in their life. For instance, I've been taking 5-7 vacations a year for 10 years straight and I still have money in my pocket and get up and go out and have fun whenever I want. All because I work my ass off and it all pays off.

Thats kind of hard to answer, It's not like I regret having kids, I just regret picking the woman I did who left me to take care of 2 children by myself and still have to work and provide for you guys.

-What is your motivation for getting up everyday and living your life?

Going to work and making money.

-What does it mean to live a meaningful life and why do you think so? Are there any messages from anywhere that help support /suggest this idea? If so from where?

Just being a decent and respectable person. Helping and taking care of my mother. I guess because thats just how I was raised.

-In your perspective was your life meaningful? Why or why not?

I guess it was because I'm very well loved, had my own family, didnt come from a broken home, living well now, you know

-What have you learned from your life? What would be your most important life lesson that if you could, you would 'warn' or pass on to others?

I guess to be riteous from the heart

-Can you think back to when you were younger. Was your life everything you expected it to be?

No. I wanted to do things I knew I couldnt do. I always wanted to be a pilot. I dreamt big but I could never accomplish that. Especially when my father had it all planned out for me already

-What is your perspective about death? Are you afraid to die? Do you believe in an eternal after life? Do you believe your after life is a happy place?

I'm not afraid of death. It's something that has to come and will come. As you get older you grow to change your mind. I'm not out there looking for death but what ever happens happens.

-If you could create a bucket list of absolutely anything you would want to do/experience before you die, what would go in your list and why? Do these things have any importance or meaning to your life?

1. Take my whole family on a cruise (brothers and sisters and mother)
2. To be alive to see all my 3 kids grow up, get a job, start a family and do well for themselves

-Would you trade your life at this moment in time with a younger person? Why or why not?

Yes, so I can have a lot more experiences in life on an every day basis.

Tuesday, February 3, 2009

Questions for Interviews ..

-Do you enjoy being old? What are the downfalls or ups to be your age?
-Are you satisfied with your life? Do you have any regrets? If you could take back or redo some things in your life, What would they be and why?
-What is your motivation for getting up everyday and living your life?
-What does it mean to live a meaningful life and why do you think so? Are there any messages from anywhere that help support /suggest this idea? If so from where?
-In your perspective was your life meaningful? Why or why not?
-What have you learned from your life? What would be your most important life lesson that if you could, you would 'warn' or pass on to others?
-Can you think back to when you were younger. Was your life everything you expected it to be?
-What is your perspective about death? Are you afraid to die? Do you believe in an eternal after life? Do you believe your after life is a happy place?
-If you could create a bucket list of absolutely anything you would want to do/experience before you die, what would go in your list and why? Do these things have any importance or meaning to your life?
-Would you trade your life at this moment in time with a younger person? Why or why not?